How to Write a Song About Someone You Miss (Love,Lost,Hate)

I believe we all have an artist inside us, it’s just a matter of when and how we get to release our artistic self. Art is the expression of emotion, and a great way to share our feelings is through a song. Here is how to write a song about someone you miss, love, lost, or hate:

  1. Write why you want to create this song
  2. Get a clear mental picture of the person you’re writing about
  3. Choose what traits to include
  4. Regarding story development, ask the big 5
  5. Create a song title
  6. Write the lyrics (productivity tips included)
  7. Create the melody
  8. Add the chords
  9. Record your song

Lets now explore the details.

How do you dedicate a song to someone?

The best way to dedicate a song to someone is through a radio station or by writing it yourself. If you opt for the radio station choice you can follow these steps:

  1. First, think about what you want to say, what kind of feelings do you want to express, what kind of message do you want to communicate?
  2. Our next step is to choose a song that means something to that specific person, pick a significant moment in their lives maybe it can be a memory you shared or a significant moment in their lives that was accompanied by a specific tune. Don’t pick something you only enjoy, remember it’s not about you 🙂 . Get through their Spotify playlist or YouTube history, I’m sure you’ll find something great!
  3. Think about the nature of the lyrics, are they suitable for the occasion? Are they expressing adequately the message you want to convey?
  4. Next, call radio station such as (click on the link to visit their page) and ask them to dedicate that song to the person in mind.
    1. Lastly if possible be in the same room as the person you’re trying to surprise and without saying anything simply turn on the radio, or if they are far away just call them and ask them to do so themselves.

What does a song consist of?

Most songs consist of some of the following elements:

  1. Lyrics
  2. Chords
  3. Melody
  4. Percussion/Beat

Also, the following parts are within a song structure,

  1. Intro
  2. Verse
  3. Pre-chorus
  4. Chorus
  5. Bridge
  6. Outro

I know that six sections seem an awful lot but no need to panic! We will write lyrics only for three sections: verse 1, chorus, and verse 2.

TIP: When writing a song is not necessary to include all the before mentioned parts, there are many great songs that include just a verse and a chorus section.

What is the intro of a song?

The intro is used to signal the beginning of a song, it’s created to grab the listener’s attention right from the start; also the intro is designed to establish a connection with the listener, and it sets the mood for what to expect from the rest of the song.

Songs are just like movies…

I’m sure you’ve heard before that first impressions count. Consider for a moment when you meet someone new, imagine you’re sitting at a café, and an attractive person comes and talks to you, what is the first thing that they do? They introduce themselves,  of course! The way they engage with you sets the mood, humans form an opinion about someone in the first 10 seconds of interaction, this also applies to songs.

Everything needs a beginning, and songs are no exception to that rule, an intro’s song is very important because it sets and prepares the listeners mood.

What is the verse of a song?

The verse in a song is the place where you tell your story and its where the story continues to progress, it takes the main idea and creates a loaning for an answer, a resolution. It’s common to encounter more than one verses within a song.

Think about your song as a journey and the verse as the road, this is a place where your story evolves, a verse introduces new elements as the song progresses.

PRO TIP: You can have each verse of your song tell a part of your story or have each verse tell a different story about the same person and tie them together with the chorus.

Below I list two famous songs that will serve you as an example, listen to them and use them as a general guideline. If you have any questions, you can leave them below in the comment section.

Blowing in the Wind

Bob Dylan

[Verse 1]

How many roads must a man walk down

Before you call him a man?

How many seas must a white dove sail

Before she sleeps in the sand?

Yes, and how many times must the cannonballs fly

Before they’re forever banned?


The answer, my friend, is blowing in the wind

The answer is blowing in the wind

[Verse 2]

Yes, and how many years can a mountain exist

Before it is washed to the sea?

Yes, and how many years can some people exist

Before they’re allowed to be free?

Yes, and how many times can a man turn his head

And pretend that he just doesn’t see?


The answer, my friend, is blowing in the wind

The answer is blowing in the wind

[Verse 3]

Yes, and how many times must a man lookup

Before he can see the sky?

Yes, and how many ears must one man have

Before he can hear people cry?

Yes, and how many deaths will it take ’til he knows

That too many people have died?


The answer, my friend, is blowing in the wind

The answer is blowing in the wind

If I Ain’t Got You

Alicia Keys

[Verse 1]

Some people live for the fortune

Some people live just for the fame

Some people live for the power, yeah

Some people live just to play the game

Some people think

That the physical things

Define what’s within

And I’ve been there before

That life’s a bore

So full of the superficial


Some people want it all

But I don’t want nothing at all

If it ain’t you, baby

If I ain’t got you, baby

Some people want diamond rings

Some just want everything

But everything means nothing

If I ain’t got you, yeah

[Verse 2]

Some people search for a fountain

Promises forever young

Some people need three dozen roses

And that’s the only way to prove you love them

Hand me the world on a silver platter

And what good would it be

With no one to share

With no one who truly cares for me


Some people want it all

But I don’t want nothing at all

If it ain’t you, baby

If I ain’t got you, baby

Some people want diamond rings

Some just want everything

But everything means nothing

If I ain’t got you, you, you

Some people want it all

But I don’t want nothing at all

If it ain’t you, baby

If I ain’t got you, baby

Some people want diamond rings

Some just want everything

But everything means nothing

If I ain’t got you, yeah


If I ain’t got you with me, baby, oh, ooh

Said nothing in this whole wide world don’t mean a thing

If I ain’t got you with me, baby

What is the pre-chorus of a song?

The pre-chorus is often referred to as “the lift “or as a connection between the verse and the chorus, mostly it is musically rich and dynamically strong. Often the melody of the pre-chorus will contrast the melody of the verse and chorus, more often than not the lyrics in the pre-chorus remain the same throughout the song, they tend to offer a sense of urgency or change. Therefore anticipation is created and eventually resolved at the chorus.

In other words, we can compare the pre-chorus with the part of the movie where you know something will happen, but you don’t know when or how. Although you expect the movie to fulfil your expectations, (let the hero live and kill the bad guys) in a similar fashion, we expect the song to fulfil our musical expectations.

What is the chorus of a song?

The chorus of a song is the most memorable part, it is repeated throughout the song, often one or more hooks are present, and the lyrics tend to have a dramatic setting. The chorus contains the answer we were waiting for, the message and the reason why the song exists.

Here you will summarize your song, it’s the place where you can write about how much you miss your loved one or why you miss them, its the place where we discover the meaning and message of the song, therefore the chorus should reach out and bring the listener in touch with their emotions.

What is the bridge of a song?

The bridge of a song is used to prepare the listener for the final climax, typically it’s used to connect two sections, it introduces variety and contrast which allows the listener to feel surprised and wonder how the song might end. A song’s bridge is usually located between the last two choruses.

What is the outro of a song?

An outro of a song is designed to ease the listener towards the song’s conclusion signalling the end of a composition. The outro is also known as “coda” and sometimes referred to as “reverse intro” or simply the opposite of an intro.

Using again a movie reference we could say that the outro of the song is the part where the princess is saved, the bad guys are in jail, the story is concluded.

Maybe everything isn’t back to normal, but for sure we feel the satisfaction of being on a journey and experiencing a great ending.

A songs outro can be simple, there is no need to make it over the top, lyrically or musically, but that depends on the type of the song.

What is the hook of a song?

A songs hook a short melodic idea which is designed to catch the listeners attention and instil the melodic pattern into their mind. A hook is a significant part of a song, especially when our goal is to craft infectious melodies. Usually, the hook is present within the song’s chorus.

PRO TIP: When creating your track, try repeating a melodic phrase twice that alone will make it more memorable.

Writing a song about someone you love

I have included a few great tips on how to write a song about someone you love, keep in mind that you can implement most of the following tips also when writing a song about someone you miss, hate, or lost.

The key here is that to create a perfect song but to express yourself in a productive way and if applicable share your feelings with the person in question. Try not to force things, a proper song comes from emotions and emotions can’t be forced.

TIP 1: Write the story from your own perspective.

Write things the way you experience them how you feel or how you felt when you were together, you can write about the first time you saw them or about memorable things you did together

TIP 2: Write the story from their perspective.

This requires you to step into their shoes and imagine their emotions, this technique requires more imagination, but I believe it’s well worth it especially when they finally hear the song and figure out how much effort you must have put into it. I’m sure they will appreciate it a lot!

A great way to write by someone else’s perspective is to simply remember the time you spent together, just close your eyes and try to imagine you’re them. Have a notebook handy in order to write down your experience

TIP 3: Describe their personality and physical parts

If you’re trying to write a song about someone, describing the personality and/or physical parts (if applicable) is a great idea. I remember the saying “I may not be the most important person in the world… But for sure I’m the most important person for myself”.

All people love to talk about themselves, that’s why when you write a love song about someone you miss describing their personality or part of them will sound like music to their ears

TIP 4: Describe their achievements

Everyone has achieved a number of things in their life, these accomplishments may seem small or huge, depending on what you compare them with, but, most people are proud of what they’ve accomplished.

Humans enjoy recognition and implementing that in a song is a wonderful idea. If you don’t know what these accomplishments might be, try talking to friends and family, create a list and pick the top three achievements to write about.

TIP 5: Talk about something only you two share

It’s common for songs and points to have more than one meaning, depending on the listener’s experiences and depending on which part of the song they choose to focus upon they’ll most likely interpret it in a different way

[box] If you want to include a secret try writing lyrics that are not to obvious a few examples of songs with more than one meanings are: “Imagine” by John Lennon “Total Eclipse of the Heart” by Bonnie Tyler “Every Breath You Take” by The Police “Slide” by the Goo Goo Dolls “Like A Virgin” By Madonna[/box]

Write a awesome song in just 9 steps!

1) Write down why you want to create this song

Everything in life starts with a “why”, a reason, a purpose, knowing your “why” will keep you motivated to finish. If after a number of days you find that motivation is diminishing simply reread your why statement, I personally when I do that, I get all fired up again.

A couple of things to consider:

  • First, what is your personal gain and their possible gain by writing this song?
  • Second, what emotions are you trying to convey to the listener?

Answering these questions will help you stay on track.

2) Get a clear mental picture of the person you’re writing about

Knowing the subject of writing is very important, therefore having a clear mental picture about their personality traits, their image, their beliefs and values, their facial characteristics that stand out, their past experiences and future dreams, all of that can help you create a great song.

You don’t have to use all this information, but having it at the top of your fingers will help you be more productive.

I suggest you create an “experience list” with all the experiences you had together or the ones you wish you had.

3) Choose what traits to include

By now you should have in your hands an extensive list painting a detailed picture of the person you’re interested in. Our next step is to choose between three and five traits to write about, don’t make it too complicated, remember simplicity is key, don’t worry if you change your mind later on, for now, it’s important to keep progressing. After that, we will reorder our “experience list” by chronological order, in most cases that makes the most sense.

4) Ask the big five

There are many ways you can write a song, I’ll share with you the one I believe will help you the most; however, I highly recommend you check out this post where I talk about other songwriting approaches. You should always ask yourself the big five before you start a song.

The Big FiveWhen.





When did it happen, where did it happen, what actually happened, how did it happen, and why did it happen. By answering the above, you’ll ensure that you stay on track when crafting the lyrics.

4) Create your song title

You’ve finished your list, and you have a general idea about what you want to write, now it’s time to create your song title.

Creating a title can be a difficult task but also very rewarding one, it can be as simple as just stating the person’s name followed by an “I love you” or “I miss you” sentence or you can create a more complex title.

Again don’t worry if you change your mind later on, no matter what you can always readjust the song’s title.

5) Write the lyrics (productivity tips included)

Let’s get started with the lyrics, writing lyrics can be like writing a poem, If you have difficulty starting I suggest the following:

a) Try writing a letter to that person

When we write a letter we feel freer to express ourselves, also is something we feel comfortable doing, writing a letter can remove the pressure of songwriting and refocuses our attention back on our feelings instead.

When you’re done, read your letter, highlight words and sentences you think would fit well within the story, if necessary, write a second letter and repeat the same process. Next, write the individual letters on a separate page.

b) Continue writing by forming associations

When you’re reading a sentence or a word, you may discover that you think of other words in the form of an association, for example, if you think of the word Valentine the word heart, flowers or chocolate may pop into your mind.

Continue applying this technique, and after a while, you’ll have a great collection of sentences, ideas, and words which you then can combine to create a story with a great beginning, middle, and end.

Divide the lyrics into the following sections:

VERSE 1: Begin the story

CHORUS: State the meaning of the song

VERSE 2: Expand the storyline

In our case, the remaining sections (intro, outro) are instrumental parts.

NOTE: I did not include a bridge section but of course your free to include one if you like.

6) Create the melody

While you’re creating your rhyme scheme, you may already have developed melodic patterns inside your head, if that’s the case get an audio recorder or your phone out and while reading you, lyrics sing the melodic lines that come into your mind.

Try to record a bunch of them, if you really have trouble singing try whistling, this trick always helps!

7) Add the chords

Pick up your instrument and play a combination of chords. Try sticking to just four chords, there is no need to complicate things at this stage unnecessarily. Here are a few chord suggestions:

a) Em, G, C, Am

b) Bm, A, G, F#

c) Em, G, D, C

d) Em – Am – Fmaj7/A – B7

I’m aware that not everyone reading this post can play a musical instrument if that’s you relax, I’ve got you covered! Here is a list of websites that have an extensive amount of loops and melodies, please review the copyright rules before downloading.

  1. Bensound
  2. Partners in rhyme
  3. Incompetech
  4. Danosongs

8) Record your song

Believe it or not, this is actually the easiest part; So far we’ve got our lyrics, melody, and chords, in total we should have the following song sections:

INTRO: instrumental: set the mood.

VERSE 1: lyrics: begin the story.

CHORUS: lyrics: state the meaning of the song.

VERSE 2: lyrics: expand the storyline.

CHORUS: lyrics: repeat the previous chorus-lyrics.

OUTRO: instrumental.

What recording software to use?

Now you’ll need a software otherwise called DAW (digital audio workstation) to record your creations, below I have listed 4 of my favorite apps and DAWS.

On my phone I personally use: Audio Evolution Mobile Studio and on my PC Ableton Live 10, but all four will equally do the job just fine.

Recording Software List

Audio Evolution Mobile Studio Price: Free / $6.99 Android Tutorial:1 YouTube

GarageBand Price: Free iOS Tutorial:2 YouTube

Audacity Price: Free Apple, Windows, Linux Tutorial:3 YouTube

Ableton Live 10 Price: $99-$799 Apple, Windows Tutorial:4 YouTube

What Microphone to use?

What you’ll need next is a microphone I suggest you purchase a USB studio mic such as the CAD Audio U37 USB Studio Condenser Recording Microphone or the Blue Snowball USB Microphone,  click on the links above to see the current price at Amazon.

What to do if you can’t sing?

You have trouble singing? No problem, just use the following free VST software MAutoPitch, and it will bring your voice back in tune. Click the link to visit the products page. Take note that you’ll need a DAW such as Ableton, Garage Band or Audacity to run the MAutoPitch software, here is a YouTube guide on how to use it properly:

Disclaimer: This software cant perform magic, it can’t transform your voice and make you sound like Pavarotti, but it can help you achieve a better vocal performance 🙂 .

9) Share & upload your song

After recording your song, you can upload it on Soundcloud to share it with the world, or just with one person that’s really up to you. Click the above link to visit Here is a short YouTube guide on how to upload a song to Soundcloud, click the link to watch the tutorial.


There you have it, your very first song! I hope this guide has helped you achieve your goals. If you want (and are bold enough 🙂 ) post a link to your song in the comment section or send me a copy through our contact page I would love to hear your creations, and who knows, it might even become a hit!

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